even the best people can have bad days. and few people like to be corrected. i was being showered by two very good helpers, and the one pushed my head back so far that it gave me neck pain. i kept yelping and trying to swat her forearm. yes, she has already been told about my neck. to make a long story short, my attempt to explain via the word page drew sighs and laughter. they commiserated. the one kept saying that she was trying to prevent soap from getting in my eyes, never hearing that she gave me pain. always framing it as a false choice. with no memory of other times she kept soap out of my eyes without hurting my neck.